Awaken From the Pain Body deals with Campbell’s step entitled, the “Belly of the Whale.” Here we learn to identify and heal our emotional imprints, which created our wounding, through some glitch in our different developmental stages.
We can start to heal our injuries once we recognize the developmental model. As evolving humans, we have six stages of development, which correlate with our basic needs.
Bonding is to securely attach and feel worthy, loved, and wanted.
Nurturing is to feel nourished, safe, and secure.
Exploration is to be free to separate and discover from a secure base.
Reflection is to be seen, heard, and acknowledged as an identity.
Confidence is to be praised, respected, and accepted as competent.
Socializing is to belong, relate, and feel a part of something–ultimately Source.
If our caretakers are unable to fulfill our needs at critical times, we take on certain desires, feelings, responses, fears, beliefs, and energy modes, which comprise fourteen recognizable wounding patterns. Each wound leads us to discover the healing key and natural gift embedded within it that assists us in awakening from these trances.
Fourteen Emotional Patterns
Our fundamental need is to bond. We want to know that we are connected, worthy, lovable, and wanted. Improper bonding with any of our caretakers happens in the time from conception to about 1½ years old. The three patterns are:
1) The Insecure Clinger.
2) The Unloved Avoider.
3) The Unwanted Defender.
All of us desire to be nurtured, safe, and supported during the feeding stage, which is from birth to about 1½ years old. There is one pattern that transpires with inadequate nurturing:
4) The Deprived “Needer”.
We crave to be free and express ourselves in the world. If we had improper separations in the exploration stage, which is between 1½ and 3 years old, three trances may happen:
5) The Vulnerable Pursuer Merger.
6) The Distant Isolator.
7) The Mistrustful Skeptic.
All of us want to be acknowledged, seen, reflected, and treated fairly. If we receive improper reflecting, which happens between 3 and 4 years old, then three wounds may develop:
8) The Trapped Invaded.
9) The Compliant Submissive Pleaser.
10) The Dominant Rigid Controller.
We long to be accepted, valued, and seen as effective and competent. If our confidence was not properly instilled, which occurs between the ages of 4 and 5 years, we may fall into three traps:
11) The Compulsive Competitive Perfectionist.
12) The Criticized Saboteur.
13) The Privileged Entitled.
Finally, we all wish to belong, to be a part of something, and to relate with like-minded others. If there is some isolation, then we develop:
14) The Excluded Outcast.
We ultimately desire to honor the Divine within us and unify with our Source, but any self-recrimination or hatred keeps us locked in the lower self.