Awaken From the Pain Body deals with Campbell’s step entitled, the “Belly of the Whale.” Here we learn to identify and heal our emotional imprints, which created our wounding, through some glitch in our different developmental stages.
We can start to heal our injuries once we recognize the developmental model. As evolving humans, we have six stages of development, which correlate with our basic needs.
Bonding is to securely attach and feel worthy, loved, and wanted.
Nurturing is to feel nourished, safe, and secure.
Exploration is to be free to separate and discover from a secure base.
Reflection is to be seen, heard, and acknowledged as an identity.
Confidence is to be praised, respected, and accepted as competent.
Socializing is to belong, relate, and feel a part of something–ultimately Source.
If our caretakers are unable to fulfill our needs at critical times, we take on certain desires, feelings, responses, fears, beliefs, and energy modes, which comprise fourteen recognizable wounding patterns. Each wound leads us to discover the healing key and natural gift embedded within it that assists us in awakening from these trances.
Fourteen Emotional Patterns
Our fundamental need is to bond. We want to know that we are connected, worthy, lovable, and wanted. Improper bonding with any of our caretakers happens in the time from conception to about 1½ years old. The three patterns are:
1) The Insecure Clinger.
2) The Unloved Avoider.
3) The Unwanted Defender.
All of us desire to be nurtured, safe, and supported during the feeding stage, which is from birth to about 1½ years old. There is one pattern that transpires with inadequate nurturing:
4) The Deprived “Needer”.
We crave to be free and express ourselves in the world. If we had improper separations in the exploration stage, which is between 1½ and 3 years old, three trances may happen:
5) The Vulnerable Pursuer Merger.
6) The Distant Isolator.
7) The Mistrustful Skeptic.
All of us want to be acknowledged, seen, reflected, and treated fairly. If we receive improper reflecting, which happens between 3 and 4 years old, then three wounds may develop:
8) The Trapped Invaded.
9) The Compliant Submissive Pleaser.
10) The Dominant Rigid Controller.
We long to be accepted, valued, and seen as effective and competent. If our confidence was not properly instilled, which occurs between the ages of 4 and 5 years, we may fall into three traps:
11) The Compulsive Competitive Perfectionist.
12) The Criticized Saboteur.
13) The Privileged Entitled.
Finally, we all wish to belong, to be a part of something, and to relate with like-minded others. If there is some isolation, then we develop:
14) The Excluded Outcast.
We ultimately desire to honor the Divine within us and unify with our Source, but any self-recrimination or hatred keeps us locked in the lower self.
MJ Harden, Author of It takes Only One.
“Awaken from the Pain Body” entreats us to discover, to understand and to heal our emotional baggage and our long-lasting insecurities from childhood. La Puma suggests tools to stop feeding this pain body —ways to grow out of our habits and our emotional disarray. It is not a quick read because there is so much to ponder and La Puma offers so many methods for healing.
Beloved Heartsong, Healer, Musician, Composer
This is a rich book filled with “buried treasure.” I gained a lot of insight and was reminded of much… found myself in many patterns. Thank you for sharing your masterpiece of love and wisdom.
Ty Koizumi, Poet, Journalist, Artist
Compelling, entertaining, inspiring, enlightening! Karen’s words are a guiding light stirring a quiet storm inside, setting a fire in the forgotten, dark and hidden places. Artistic, tasteful, and generous, his book is powerful and intelligent. She’s a true teacher that activates our spirit to reconnect to our soul, giving us a passport to healing and living well.
Lorren Holden, Poet, Healer
Great work, compelling material articulately and skillfully presented. The structure, ideas, and transitions support deep and far-reaching understanding. The logical flow of this transformative model is like an invitation to walk gently downhill to my truth. It is inspiring, accessible and a high demand work.
Patricia Greenough, Writer
Fascinating, wonderful, pure gold in terms of coaching. The wisdom is exceptional, flows so pleasingly, rich in synthesizing and pulling many disparate authorities. This is primer for beginners as well as a holistic overview for those who have been on the path for some time.
Great teachings to use to help re-center oneself. It truly enrolls the reader as a companion on the journey; practical, accessible, exuding courage on every page. It’s alive, a living piece.
Susan Schenck, Award-Winning Author
Awaken From the Pain Body should be required reading for every parent. Learn what NOT to do and what TO DO so your child doesn’t have any of these 14 emotional wounding patterns. An easy, fun, fast read filled with poster-type photos that have quotation excerpts from the book. The posters activate the right brain. In fact, you could even use this as an oracle, and randomly open it for a message from your angels or higher self. There are many original quotes and quotes from famous spiritual leaders. The book has not only case studies (and I love that the author has her clients do The Work of Byron Katie!) but also the author’s personal experiences as a child, and how she overcame these limiting experiences. “I became my own mentor,” says the author. I also love that the print is so large I don’t need my reading glasses!